What stance should one take under difficult circumstances?

Status: solved, 18 May 2026

Problem statement: What stance should one take under difficult circumstances? The answer is neither "Life is happening to me" or "Life is happening for me."

Tony Robbin's signature philosophy is "Life is always happening for you, not to you." It is a powerful frame that has helped many people but brings in some mysticism. What is the more accurate version of it? How could we rebuild it on epistemics that don't require believing the universe has intentions?

Conjecture: See Life in Ways that Help You